Some of the most integral and influential conversations you can have with your child will involve talking about sex and sexuality. Therefore, it’s important to be mindful of how you approach the subject. We understand that it’s no easy feat. Most conversations about sex and sexual health can make you or your child feel awkward. If you’re lucky, your child may even come to you with questions so we want to help you be prepared. If you’re feeling overwhelmed about discussing sex with your child and don’t know where to start, know that it’s okay. Here, we’ll provide tips on how to talk about sex with young people:
“The Talk”
An Continued Conversation
It’s important to remember that when you start talking to your child about sex and sexuality, it shouldn’t be treated as “the talk”. That would imply that it’s only one conversation when in actuality, it shouldn’t be. When parents talk about sex, it should be an ongoing conversation that happens comfortably over time. Research shows that adults have the greatest influence over the decisions that their children make regarding sexual activity. That’s why you need to approach the conversation delicately, as both sex and sexuality can be a broad range of issues that you need to cover. Young people are like sponges, so you need to ensure that what you discuss with them is done comfortably and effectively. One way to practically apply talks about sex and healthy relationships into your and your child’s life is to build and intentional weekly rhythm. It may sound odd, and more than likely at the start, may feel awkward. Again, this is ok. Knowing that on Wednesdays during dinner, or an evening Sunday night walk will prepare a safe space for your child to ask their questions.Tips To Help Talk About Sex
Understand the Facts
Not all parents and their children share the same comfort level when having an open conversation about sex and sexuality. Firstly, you should become comfortable with the subject before discussing it with your child. One of the most effective ways to become comfortable with talking about sex is to do your research and understand the facts. It doesn’t hurt to be prepared to talk openly about the basics when they’re young, but as they become teens, you may need to be more specific. Many reliable sources can teach you how to offer appropriate and accurate information for all ages. Keep in mind that books and information can’t teach you everything but are still useful as reference material. Some topics you may want to consider talking to your children about may include:- Childbirth
- Puberty
- Sexual orientation
- Sexual identity
- Sexual feelings
- Gender identity
- Reproduction
- Masturbation
- Contraception
- Birth control
- Pregnancy prevention
- Unplanned pregnancy
- Consent
- Respect
- Communication
- Healthy relationships
- Safe sex
- Sexually transmitted infections (STIs)